Whew! Long day. I am finally home and have a chance to get started on this blog post.
I have some great news! After much stress and worry I have found a 2nd part time job. It isn’t going to make us rich or even pay all the bills but it is SOMETHING and that means I am on my way to furthering myself and our family.
I’ve had to let go of the need to be able to supplement what I used to bring in, and realize that all I can do at this point is the best I can. I can’t expect miracles over night – I just try to take a step in the right direction.
I start training this afternoon and am looking forward to it.
In other news, yesterday’s workout wasn’t anything spectacular.
I spent 40 minutes on the treadmill running just over 4 miles and then followed that up with a walk around the indoor track for 20 minutes.
I also got in a pretty quick leg workout before we had to run to an appointment.
My workouts have been missing something lately. I don’t know if it is stress, or I’m just losing focus, but I am really trying to get my mind back into it lately.
I wanted to go ahead and get something out in the open before the rumors start over the next few days. Saturday night the husband and I were walking and he slipped and fell on ice (stay tuned for a post later on running in the snow/ice). At first everything seemed fine it was just a bit sore, but then Monday when he started his run something was off. Pain starting coming on really bad in his lower back/glute area.
After 3 doctors visits we BELIEVE that he a sacra iliac dysfunction (he says this like everyone will know what that is) but it is a misalignment of the joint that connects your sacrum to your hip. He has been adjusted twice now and is hoping that over the next week or so that it will get better.
The past couple days have been tough because he has had to go cross train with no running. If you thought I was bad when injured you don’t even want to live in our household right now.
Anyways, I have decided that starting today through whenever he can run again I am going to be taking a step back from running and cross train with him. We are hoping that this won’t be too long of a recovery, but I feel that in order to support him this will really help.
I found this quote one time and it is so true.
Sometimes we have to take a step back and be strong for our spouse. I’m not training for anything right now and since I am already taking things slow coming back from an injury, it really couldn’t be a more perfect time.
So before the rumors start:
No, I am not injured again.
No, I am not cross training because I overdid it and now can’t run.
I am simply slowing my running down a bit to support my husband during this tough time for him. Hopefully it won’t be for long!
I look forward to being able to cross train with him because when it comes to running we rarely run together since he is so much faster. There can be good found in ever situation, but I hope that he will be back running like a crazy man soon!
Have you ever had a situation where you had to be the strong one in the relationship?
Wednesday check in – how are your workouts going so far?
So … are the rumors true that you overdid it and re-injured yourself and that is why you can’t run?!? 😀 (it is ok to tell me to STFU now 🙂 )
Sorry to hear about Wes – it is amazing how you can do all of this stuff and then just randomly slip and fall and hurt yourself. That is similar to what happened to my wife. She was out for a walk the day after her birthday with a friend and a car was coming so they moved to the side, she caught her foot on an uneven edge, and tore all three ligaments around her ankle … and given that she has rolled that ankle a few times before, at this point it will really never be the same.
And what you say about the 50/50 relationship REALLY is true – sure it is great when there are no major pressing issues, everything is good and you are just going day to day. And that stuff DOES happen and it is great. But the reality is so much of the time the support has to flow one way or the other. Right now my wife is coming off of her *second* round of antibiotics – after making it through ‘retail at the holidays’, she did end up getting sick, on antibiotics, and then about 8 days into them she started reacting and ends up now aallergic to penicillin and on three pills! Feels like crap and just can’t do much.
We need to be there for each other, whether physically, mentally, emotionally, or just to listen. And like you say, sometimes it is little things like backing off your running to put focus elsewhere so you can be together on it.
Yes it is crazy how one tiny fall can do so much. I really hope it doesn’t last very long and he is back up and running again soon. He is 12 weeks out from Boston and I know this is so hard for him. It won’t do me any good getting a few extra runs in this week when I know how hard it is – so I think cross training with him is the best thing I can do right now!
Sometimes you have to be strong for the other person – he has been there for me many times so right now it is my turn! 🙂
Can he do hip muscle work? I am just wondering if he can work on strengthening that area … though I am sure he has all of that under control 🙂
And in case I wasn’t clear enough – it takes an incredibly strong and mature and supportive person to be coming back from your own issues and setting that recovery to the side for a time for the sake of supporting your spouse.
Well thank you 🙂 I appreciate it! I am trying. It’s not easy but it is what he needs and I Just happen to be at the perfect place in my training to be able to do that.
He can do some. He has some exercises to do from the 4 doctors we’ve been too for this now. Just pray it heals sooner rather than later!
What a thoughtful & compassionate thing to do!
Sometimes we just have to support the other one when they are down 🙂 Just part of marriage!
this is an awesome post, you’re a good wife!
Aww you are sweet 🙂
I just love your blog! It’s so honest and open and not sugar coated! I am so sorry to hear about Wes, but together I think you guys can conquer anything!!!!!
That picture quote hit the nail on the head! Everyone thinks that marriage is really easy and that if husband and wife give 100% all the time, and that is what makes a sucessful marriage. However, that is definitely not the case. My husband and I went through a really life altering experience within the first 8 months of marriage. My husband was really down on himself for the things that had happened and I felt like it was my responsibility to pick him up, motivate and support him. Now I feel we are stronger than ever. The roles are constantly reversing! They didn’t say for better or worse because everything is always better!!!!
Thanks again for posting this! It’s really refreshing!
Ally thank you so much! You don’t know how much this comment made my day 🙂
So many people think marriage is SO easy but it takes a lot of work. Sometimes we are both putting in the work and sometimes it falls more on one person than the other. That’s natural. It’s part of life and it is so true you come out stronger in the end!
Good luck to you and our husband! 🙂
Hey Sarah,
Would it be possible to cross train with your husband while still running a little to build on the progress you are making in this area. Best of both worlds- supporting your husband and nurturing your own dreams a little too?
Yes it would. The thing is right now I am going back at it so slowly a few days off to cross train with him won’t hurt! If i cross train and run sometimes that adds up too much so if I am going to commit to helping him cross train for a little bit it is better to just focus on that and now over do it.
Ah, poor Wes! And this is after your comment on the weekend about how your friend from the gym fell on ice and was injured. Ice and snow are the worst (and I definitely look forward to your post about this topic). All injuries are bad, but I think it really sucks when it’s not overuse, but something completely beyond your control, like a fall or being hit by something. For me anyway, I always feel overuse injuries coming so am less surprised. But a surprise fall is a complete shock. It is very supportive of you to cross train with him. I hope you are both back running soon:)
Thank you 🙂 He just needs a little boost and right now if I can give that to him I am all for it! Hopefully he will be back to his old self soon.
SOO sorry for Wes :(. He’s lucky to have such a supportive wife!